Today I had my first pangs of childhood let down, but from the parent perspective. Gemma had said to me that she wanted a certain girl in her class to come over and play. I ran into the girl's mother and asked if Gemma's classmate could come over and play. The little girl was standing by her mother and said she didn't want to play with Gemma, she wanted to play with another girl in her class. Her mother agreed that this little girl could not play with Gemma because she was too nervous and she just feels comfortable with her other friend. The mother then said she would try and talk her into it and said she would let me know. Of course knew the mother was just saying this, but it was a disappointment to Gemma. I even think that it was a bigger disappointment to me!
I had been holding my breath for the girl cattiness to start, but this early? When I walked into Gemma's classroom and her teacher said that the kids making playdates with each other have become problematic in the classroom. One child will invite another over and not include the third, then comes the shoving. Can you believe this with 4 and 5 year olds?
I remember in grade school how scared I was to go to school each day for fear my peer group would choose me to be the person they were mad at for that particular day. I hated it and I swear my stomach just ached the entire time I was in grade school, actually make that junior high and high school too!
Even as an adult I also feel the hurt feeling when I am not included in activities. Do girls ever grow out of it even when we are grown women? I would sure love to hear your comments on this one, especially from other mothers who have gone through this with a daughter already.